Strap-ons are complicated when you’re fat. There’s literally no way to get around that. Most strap-ons are for standard size bodies and even when they’re adjustable, they rarely go up to sizes beyond a XL equivalent. I’ve tried numerous brands that promise they’ll be big enough for me, a smol fat. Most that I’ve tried have been flimsy, uncomfortable, or just not big enough, even for my size 16-18 body. 

When I first started partnering with Blush and I saw that they have a comfortable looking style of strap-on harnesses that go up to 5X, I was so excited to try it out!! Thankfully, they appeased my request to try it and sent me one to test out, along with all three of their strapless strap-ons from their Temptasia collection: Estella, Cyrus, and Luna. 

Wearing the Temptasia Harness Brief in size 2X with Blush’s Avant D2 Dildo

First, let me start with the Temptasia Harness Briefs. I’ve always loved brief style harnesses based strictly on appearance. When I actually got to try a pair, I was so happy! They’re extremely comfortable to wear and enable me to position the dildo in such a way that my belly doesn’t interfere with the fun. Because that can happen: when you’ve got a belly like mine, it can get in the way. I got a 2XL in Blush’s harness briefs and the elastic band fit perfectly while the legs of the shorts are a bit loose. Not enough for me to not want to use them again, though! I’ve really enjoyed how comfortable they are to wear when I’m topping and the only issue I have with them is the same issue I have with any brief style harness: the o-ring limits the size of toys that can be used. That’s an issue with any strap-on harness that has a built in o-ring though, it’s not exclusive to Blush’s. 

So then we get to their strapless strap-ons. This for me is where it gets fun! Full disclosure, I didn’t try any of their strap-ons with the harness briefs. I just relied on my kegal muscles and my thick thighs to keep their strapless strap-ons in place. Cause, ya know, ya girl has been working on strengthening those kegal muscles 😉 I also didn’t try any of them with the vibrator inserted, but more on that later. 

First up is the Luna, Blush’s teal strapless strap-on that looks very similar to the famed Feeldo. The bulb that goes in the giver is the smallest of their three strapless options, though the insertable length for the receiver is the longest at 7.5”. For me, this is my least favorite of the three. Not to say it’s not good, but it was just not my personal favorite. It is the longest and most likely to get past my thighs to give whomever I’m fucking The Most. There’s not a lot of texture for the receiver to enjoy, but there’s a vein that runs around it so it does have something. Because the bulb that goes into the giver is the smallest, it means that you’ve got to have some really great kegal muscles to keep it in place or use it with a harness to keep it in place. 

The Estella model is the one I had the longest and was able to test out the most. I really like that the bulb that goes into the giver is angled forward and is a bit larger. It was easier for me to keep in place and because of the angle of it + the size of it meant that after I was done fucking my girlfriend with it and it was her turn to pleasure me, I was already really worked up. It didn’t quite hit my g-spot but it did provide me with enough stimulation that I didn’t really need any foreplay to warm up. I love the placement of the ridges that are intended to further stimulate the giver because I had my girlfriend give me a “hummer” blowjob on the dildo and the way she rubbed it against me was really enjoyable! The Estella falls right in between the Luna and Cyrus in terms of insertable length with 5.75” insertable for the receiver. 

Then, we get to my girlfriend’s favorite of the three: the Cyrus model! Now, if you’re new here, just a heads up, when I say that this is my girlfriend’s favorite, I’m referring to her favorite as the receiver. All three of their strapless strap-ons are intended to be worn by vagina having folks. 

I was most weary of Cyrus prior to using it. Like me, it is short and fat. It has 5” of insertable length for the receiver. I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to get it past my thighs and into my girlfriend’s booty. If you’ve never fucked a plus size person, you probably know what I’m referring to: thick thighs can often make penetration difficult for smaller dicks. I assumed it would be the same as a giver! Thankfully, I was mistaken. The bulb that goes into the giver is again angled forward so it also provided a lot of stimulation while I was topping my girlfriend. This was her favorite because she is a size queen and loves a thick dick. Cyrus was the perfect length for hitting her prostate. 

All three of Blush’s strapless strap-ons are made from their deliciously smooth silicone, which I love. I don’t just say that because they sponsor my blog, I say that because their silicone is amazing. It’s buttery smooth with virtually no drag. I’m obsessed and have been long before they reached out to book me to write reviews. If you’re looking at buying a strapless strap-on and you’ve narrowed it down to a Feeldo or one of Blush’s options, I will say this: the Feeldo has a lot of drag. Yes, it’s silicone, yes it’s body safe, but not all silicones have the same texture, and I’d take Blush’s velvety smooth silicone over the silicone drag that the Feeldo has. Drag is a big turn off for me when it comes to material texture! 

Ok, so circling back a little bit. The vibrator! This is purely my personal preference to not use the vibrator that each strap comes with. I was concerned that despite the fact that I’m working on my kegals, with vibrations, I wouldn’t be able to keep the strapless strap-ons in place. I also knew that after topping my girlfriend with these, I was going to be on the receiving end of pleasure, and if I have too much vibration, it could dull my pleasure if it’s not the right kind or right placement of vibration. I think that I will give the vibrator bit a try but it’s going to be at a time when I’m not a horny mess wanting my pleasure too. 

I haven’t had the chance to use any of these with another fat person, but I have a friend coming to stay & film with me in March, so I am going to give all of these a shot while she’s here so I can tell you how well they work when it comes to fat on fat. As a fat person topping with these strapless strap-ons, it was surprisingly easier than I thought it would be. I can see how these could be difficult for someone with thicker thighs than mine, though. My thighs are about 26.5” around and if you have thighs that have a lot of fat on the front of your thighs, these could be harder to use. For me, I did have to lift my belly a bit to get good angles for topping my partner, especially if she was on her stomach rather than on her back. 

All three strapless strap-ons retail for about $50 and the harness brief retails for about $20. 

Have you tried any strapless strap-ons or harnesses as a fat person? I’d love to hear your experiences too!