There’s something important you should know about me: I love throwing strap. I’m not a 100% top, but I get a lot of pleasure from using my strap-on to make a lover or scene partner achieve pleasure. And as a performer, this is kind of A Thing my peers know about me. I’ve had people joke that I “threw the best strap in Vegas.” Strap-on is absolutely one of my things!
So when I first saw a bumpher, I was intrigued. It is designed to cushion the base of a dildo so that the wearer is stimulated during sex. I mean, hello, this is right up my alley!!
Don’t judge me for the fact that I found about BananaPants bumpher after everyone else. Let me be the judge of this strap-on accessory instead!
Meet the Bumpher
BananaPants Bumpher is a “dildo base stimulation cushion” that attaches to the base of a strap-on harness compatible dildo. It is supposed to stimulate the wearer during sex, as well as prevent pelvic bruising. Bumpher is made with body-safe silicone that is squishy, soft and smooth. Designed to accommodate dildo bases up to 3.25in/8.25cm, the base of the Bumpher has a small hole that stretches quite easily. Please note that this is specifically for o-ring and underwear style harnesses, not a vac-u-lock style harness.
Measuring in at 4in/10.16cm H and 2.75in/6.98cm W, this isn’t a large toy. It’s larger than palm size for me and my tiny hands, though someone with larger hands may find that it fits quite well in the palm of their hand. It is available in 5 colors: Purple Plush, Black, Sweet Pink, Midnight Blue and Sea Blue.
On the top side of the accessory are smooth bumps that are meant to stimulate the wearer. It’s almost like a grinder in the way it stimulates: by rubbing against you anatomy. Instead of purposefully grinding against it, like you would a grinder, you’re relying on the penetrative in & out of strap-on play to cause the Bumpher to rub against you.
Pros:
- Cushioning helps prevent bruising on pelvic region
- Soft, squishy silicone is flexible and super smooth
- Compatible with a variety of dildos with a base of up to 3.25in/8.25cm
- Multiple color options available
Cons:
- Minimal stimulation with harnesses that sit higher on the pelvic region
- Not compatible with big toys or some fantasy toys (ie, Mr Hankey’s, Bad Dragon, etc)
How to Use the Bumpher
To start, make sure to clean your Bumpher with gentle, unscented hand soap or your preferred toy cleaner. According to BananaPants, you can also boil it for about 3 minutes.
Now, there is a little hack for the Bumpher that I need to tell you about really quickly: you can use this as a solo toy!! The hole on the base of the accessory is nicely sized for some bullet vibrators. Stick your fav bullet vibe in there and rub the Bumpher against your anatomy for some solo pleasure.
To attach the BananaPants Bumpher to a dildo, stretch the hole on the base and start to wrap it around the base of your preferred dildo. The base is quite stretchy, but it is still made with a somewhat delicate material, so be gentle while stretching!
Depending on whether you’re using an o-ring harness or underwear style harness, you may want to put the dildo into the harness before attaching the Bumpher to the base. I’ve found that it really does vary harness to harness! For example, I can put the Bumpher on the base of a dildo before I use my strappy CalExotics Her Royal Harness Regal Duchess Strap-on Harness, but it’s easier for me to put on the base of a dildo after when I’m going to use one of my RodeoH underwear style harnesses. The shape of the dildo will also matter here! For a dildo with balls, such as the one I’ve used in pictures, you’d want to put the dildo into the harness before attaching the Bumpher.
Ideally, the Bumpher will sit on your pelvic region, with the bottom of the accessory sitting on or close to your clitoris, as this is how you achieve the most stimulation. However, not all harnesses are as low set as is needed. This is where my complaint about the Bumpher comes in: if it is not against the right spot of your anatomy, you may not get as much stimulation. I found that it makes a big difference in my physical stimulation during strap-on sex vs my mental stimulation.
What Do I Mean?
Mental stimulation wise, if I’m throwing strap, I’m already in the game. But physical stimulation wise, if the Bumpher isn’t in The Right Spot, it just didn’t do it for me as a stimulator. It absolutely helped with cushioning, especially during some enthusiastic or rough sex! But there is a difference between cushioning and stimulating. Like a big difference.
But there are other factors at hand here, that are important to recognize! 1 – I’m plus size and I have a fat apron that does partially cover my FUPA. 2 – I have only tried the Bumpher with the above mentioned CalExotics harness and 3 different styles of RodeoH harnesses: jock-strap, high rise brief, and cheeky panty harnesses.
I cannot speak to how high/low other harnesses sit on the anatomy. The CalExotics harness that I use is the easiest for me to adjust so it the Bumpher does sit comfortably against my anatomy in a way that can stimulate me. When I had a friend help test out the Bumpher during a porn scene we filmed together, she had a completely different harness that was more of a “high waist” harness where the o-ring sat higher on her FUPA.
In my experience, position of the harness absolutely matters for whether or not the Bumpher is stimulating or just making strap-on sex a bit more comfortable.
When you do get the positioning against your anatomy right, though… Woah. Suddenly, I went from a 80/20 split of mental/physical stimulation, to a 50/50 split of mental/physical stimulation. Strap-on topping already is very stimulating to me mentally, so to have something that increased the physical stimulation to match was exactly what I hoped for from the BananaPants Bumpher.
Sex positions also seemed to matter quite a bit, but I think that was more-so because some positions made it more comfortable for the Bumpher to be pressed against my clitoris. Having my wife on her hands and knees while I stood over her, was the perfect pegging position for maximum stimulation. Her riding me meant the position of my harness changed slightly and put it back on top of my FUPA. Ugh.
I think the BananaPants Bumpher really is just one of those toys that requires a lot of “fucking around and finding out” to really find what works best for you and your anatomy as a strap-on top/wearer.
Oh, and speaking of my wife… My trans wife opted not to try the Bumpher when strap-on topping me, because she felt that the stimulation of it against her girldick wouldn’t feel very comfortable during already uncomfortable/painful erections. On the flip side, as the anal size queen that she is, many of her toys had bases that were simply too large for the BananaPants Bumpher. There were a few that worked, but with great size comes bigger bases!
Final Thoughts on the BananaPants Bumpher
As someone who does a lot of strap-on fucking, I overall like the BananaPants Bumpher. It’s not perfect in that results do vary on positioning of the harness as well as sexual positions, but even when it wasn’t providing me physical stimulation, I could tell the difference in made. I already have a lot of cushion for pushin’, but I have bruised my pelvic region from some of intense, rough and/or enthusiastic sex. A little extra cushion goes a long way!!
If you are someone that does a good deal of strap-on fucking with standard size toys, I think you should try the Bumpher. If you find that you need some more cushion between your body and the base of a dildo when throwing strap, I think you should try this accessory. It does make a lot of difference!!
You may need to play around a bit to find the positioning that works for you, but are you really going to complain about having more sex with your partner or lover? 😉
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